Bad Influence

Prologue

Dear Destiny,

Can you ever know that someone is truly yours?

So asks one follower by the initials AG this week, and the simple answer is: no. I hope this hasn’t cracked your heart in two. Let me explain:

Dear AG – If you are in a relationship and concerned whether the other person is as committed to you as you are to them, or you are questioning your own commitment to a long-term relationship, firstly, may I strongly suggest that you do some work on yourself.

This kind of question reveals a deep insecurity and a lack of trust that is likely to make any suitor catch the first bus out of your area.

Secondly, you need to get out there and enjoy having a full relationship without fear.

Thirdly, remember that no one can actually climb inside anyone’s brain, so it’s impossible to know if they are truly yours, all you can do is trust them – until they show you otherwise, which might be never or might be tomorrow.

Work with factual information, AG, because guessing about a person is the road to ruin.

And be thankful they can’t climb into your mind either – that really would be the death of nearly all relationships, wouldn’t it?

AG, you must believe in your ability to love and be loved in return.

Best of luck,

Dear Destiny