Chapter 2 Kink Talk
Kink Talk
SubSequins: Question for the group. If I’m dating people in the lifestyle, should I tell them I’m totally new to the whole thing right off the bat or after a few dates? Has anyone run into people being dicks about it?
SubLily: I think it’s better to get it all out in the open right away.
DomAndDommer: I would want to know early. Maybe not as soon as we meet, but like after one or two dates? I don’t mind either way, but it’d be good to know so I could ease them in.
DommyBoy: I vote for right away—better to filter out anyone who’s going to be weird about it early on so you don’t waste your time.
SubMarine: I think you should wait. No need to bring it up until you get to know each other on equal footing.
SubLily: Are you suggesting that being inexperienced makes you less than equal?
SubMarine: Feels that way. It makes you vulnerable because you’re putting your trust in them to guide you.
DomicronPersei8: I feel like this conversation would go differently if Sequins was a Dom.
DommyBoy: True.
SubAir: Hot take here, but I don’t plan on telling. I’ll admit to being kinda inexperienced, but fuck if I’m going to admit to being a 40-year old BDSM virgin.
SubSequins: Wouldn’t that undermine the trust you’re building with your Dom?
SubAir: I can offer someone my trust without laying myself completely bare.