Chapter Twenty-One
Sitting alone in her office, Sam read the speech her staff had drafted for her, dabbing at her eyes as the emotion behind the beautifully crafted words made her throat tighten. How would she ever say these beautifully crafted words out loud in front of two thousand people in a few short days?
Good morning, and thank you for inviting me to be your speaker today.
I have to say at the outset that the subject matter I’m covering today is very difficult for me to talk about as I’m sure it’s difficult for many of you to hear.
I know that so many women have traveled a path similar to mine, and I’m here today to shed some light on the need for greater understanding of the challenges many women face in achieving what should be the easiest and most natural thing we’ll ever do.
For many of us, myself included, there is nothing easy or natural about having a baby.
I’ve had a lot of titles in my life—Samantha, Sam, Ms. Holland, Lieutenant Holland, Mrs. Cappuano, Second Lady.
But only recently did I have the most important of all titles bestowed upon me—Mom.
I am mom to my son, Scotty, the thirteen-year-old Vice President Cappuano and I adopted earlier this year.
Scotty had spent the last seven years, since his mother and grandfather died months apart, as a ward of the Commonwealth of Virginia.
My husband met Scotty on a campaign stop at the home where he lived, and their bond was instantaneous.
It took a while for the three of us to realize we were slowly but surely becoming a family.
Last summer, Scotty took a tremendous leap of faith by leaving his longtime home to come live with us.
His adoption was finalized earlier this year, and we are overjoyed to be his parents.
Being Scotty’s mom is the greatest joy of my life.
My journey to motherhood was long and perilous, filled with more lows than highs.
The first time I became pregnant—accidentally—as a college student, I still believed it was a matter of when not if I’d have a baby.
I wasn’t ready to be a mother then and went to a clinic intending to end that pregnancy.
I look back at that decision now with the wisdom and hindsight of maturity and wonder how I ever could’ve been so cavalier with something so precious.
My husband and I support a woman’s right to choose and the rights of all women to control their bodies and their fertility.
I was grateful then and I’m grateful now that there are services in place to help women who aren’t able—for whatever reason—to take on the enormous responsibility of bringing a child into this world.
I miscarried that baby before I could decide not to have it.
That was the first of four miscarriages, one of them ectopic and so severe I nearly bled to death.
After my third miscarriage, doctors told me I most likely wouldn’t conceive again.
I believed them and resigned myself to the reality that I would be the best aunt in the history of the world to my beloved nieces and nephews and that would be more than enough for me.
Until Nick Cappuano came back into my life six years after I first met him, and resurrected my desire for a family—mostly because he’d never had much in the way of family growing up.
My infertility struggles took on new meaning after we were married.
I desperately wished the doctors had been wrong, that I might conceive after all.
Sam wiped away tears that flowed freely down her cheeks as they usually did when she thought or talked about this subject.
She was thankful that Lilia and the others had left her alone to read the speech for the first time.
Wiping her eyes with a tissue, she forced herself to continue through the most difficult part, recalling the devastating miscarriage she’d suffered last winter in the midst of the Lightfeather investigation.
Here I thought I couldn’t get pregnant, and I was miscarrying again, before I’d even officially confirmed I was pregnant.
That was a tough one. Perhaps the toughest of all.
But there was a silver lining, if you can call it that.
The doctors had been wrong. I could conceive again—and if I’d done it once, chances were I could do it again.
The aftermath of that fourth miscarriage was one of the low points in my life.
I faced a tremendously difficult decision—should I try again, one more time, knowing the odds were stacked against me, or should I accept it wasn’t in the cards for me to carry a child of my own?
I thought about this dilemma constantly.
I worried I wouldn’t bounce back from another devastating loss, so I feared taking the risk.
Nick and I talked about it, and as always, he said he’d go along with whatever decision I was most comfortable with.
He’s been amazingly supportive on this subject from day one.
I’ve never felt any pressure from him. Before we adopted Scotty, he said he’d be completely satisfied if our family was only the two of us.
Our family feels far more complete with Scotty now part of it, and since he came to live with us, I’ve found myself thinking about my own fertility struggles far less often than I used to.
I shared my dilemma with my stepmother and sisters, who counseled me to try one more time or spend the rest of my life wondering what might’ve happened.
I listened to their advice and decided to let nature take its course.
So far we haven’t been successful, but we sure are enjoying all the practice.
Sam smiled, imagining the frenzy that line would unleash, but appreciating the moment of levity.
Some of you may wonder why the vice president and I would choose to publicize our fertility struggles this way, and let me say, it certainly doesn’t come naturally to either of us to air out our personal business in public.
However, we realize we’re in a unique position to bring light to issues that have touched our lives and shaped who we are.
In addition to fertility, we care deeply for people, like my father, who live with spinal cord injuries.
We’re committed to my brothers and sisters in blue who sacrifice so much to keep our communities safe, and to children who struggle with learning disabilities, such as the undiagnosed dyslexia that plagued my childhood.
Despite the office my husband holds, we’re regular people like the rest of you.
We’ve had our struggles, our share of joy and heartbreak.
We both come from humble beginnings, so we relate to the concerns of middle class families who are trying to make ends meet.
We’ve been where you are. We understand and we want to help.
I hope we can begin a national dialogue on these and other issues that matter to us and to so many of you, too.
We hope that by sharing our story, we can bring comfort to others who face similar challenges.
And we hope that by bringing increased attention to these matters, we’ll see an increase in federal funding to effect real and lasting change.
Thank you for having me today, and thank you for listening to my story.
Sam blew out a deep breath and wiped her eyes again.
Thankfully, she hadn’t bothered with mascara this morning or it would be all over her face by now.
Lilia and the staff had done a brilliant job of capturing the story she’d conveyed to them, but it was never easy to relive her devastating losses.
She also appreciated that they’d managed to tell the story without mentioning her first husband, as she’d requested.
When she’d gotten herself together, she went to the door to invite in the staff. They filed in, gathering in the sitting area.
“Well?” Lilia took a close look at Sam. “What did you think?”
“It’s brilliant. Thank you.”
“Oh, that’s wonderful to hear! Most of the credit goes to Andrea,” Lilia said of Sam’s communications director.
“I’m so glad you’re happy with it,” Andrea said. “We can make any changes you need—”
“I wouldn’t change a word.” Sam dabbed at her eyes again. “My only concern is how I’ll get through it without bawling my head off.”
“Practice it a few times,” Keira said. “You may cry the first few times, but maybe you’ll get it out of your system before Friday.”
“I’ll try that.”
“Do you want to practice on the teleprompter?” Andrea asked.
“There’s going to be a teleprompter?”
“Unless you’d prefer to memorize it?”
“Yeah, that’s probably not happening by Friday.”
“With the teleprompter,” Andrea said, “you can look out at your audience as you speak. It makes the talk more personal and engaging.”
“I suppose I should practice then since I’ve never used one before.”
Andrea got up from her seat. “Give me five minutes, and I’ll set it up in the briefing room.”
Sam rubbed a hand over her belly, wishing that was all it would take to calm her nerves. “This is all very big time.”
“Well, it is the White House, after all,” Lilia said with a teasing smile.
Sam laughed. “I keep forgetting that.”
“For what it’s worth, I think you’re going to be a huge hit, and people will love you for sharing your story—more than they already do.”
“Not sure how I feel about that.”
“It’s a good thing,” Lilia assured her.
“We’re being overrun with interview requests for you,” Mackenzie said. “People are in love with you after the inaugural parade, and I expect your popularity will soar even higher after this speech.”
Sam grimaced at the thought of more attention.
She’d managed to fend off most of it in the weeks since the inauguration, but everywhere she went people said something to her about the crowd-surfing stunt.
The way she saw it, she’d been doing her job.
That she happened to do it before an international audience was unfortunate for someone who preferred life below the radar.
Andrea returned, and she and Lilia walked Sam to the White House briefing room.
“I recognize this room,” Sam said.
“You probably see it every day on the news,” Andrea said.
“It’s where the White House spokesman—and occasionally the president himself—briefs the press.
” She took Sam to the podium and pointed out the screens on either side that contained the text of her speech.
“You want to run through it once to get a feel for the teleprompters?”
“Um, sure, okay.” Sam managed to get through most of it without getting emotional, but the part about losing Nick’s baby had her throat closing. She cleared the lump from her throat and took a second to get her bearings before continuing.
“That was great,” Lilia said. “Excellent delivery to say you aren’t a seasoned public speaker.”
“I’m hardly seasoned. I’m more like a quivering virgin.”
Lilia and Andrea laughed and then went silent when Nick stepped into the room.
“Good afternoon, Mr. Vice President,” Lilia said.
“Good afternoon, ladies. Would you mind if I had a word with my wife?”
“Of course,” Lilia said.
“You did great,” Andrea said with a smile for Sam before she followed Lilia from the room.
“I have to agree,” Nick said. “That was fantastic.”
“How much of it did you hear?”
“Enough to be certain you’ll knock the cover off the ball on Friday. I’m so proud of you, Samantha. I know how difficult this subject is for you to talk about in private, let alone in public.”
Unnerved by his unexpected appearance as much as his praise, she gathered up the pages Andrea had put on the podium. “Hopefully, it’ll do some good.”
“It’ll do a lot of good.”
“What’re you doing here?”
“I work here.” He held out a hand to help her down the stairs from the podium. “And my reason for an extra sick day left with you.”
Though she didn’t need the help, she took his hand anyway. “I’m sorry I told you to fuck off.”
“I’m sorry I gave you reason to.”
She smiled up at him, instantly relieved.
He put his hands on her shoulders and gazed down at her. “I know I can trust you, Sam. I know that. My issues on this topic are not about you.”
“I wish there was some way I could make you see that you have nothing to worry about. I don’t want anyone but you. I can’t control what other people do or feel or say any more than you can. We can only control whether we let other people’s crap touch us.”
“You’re right, and I’m going to try harder not to let that particular pile of crap touch us, but that doesn’t mean the thought of you away with him for the night doesn’t make me crazy.”
“I’m not going to be with him overnight.”
“If you’d get a freaking smart phone, we could FaceTime.”
“And then you could confirm that I was alone in my room,” Sam said, irked by the insinuation.
“No, then I could see your gorgeous face when I’m forced to go to bed without you.”
She scowled at the smoothly delivered line. “Whatever you say.”
He put his arms around her and kissed her forehead. “I couldn’t let you go with the way we left things at home. I love you too much not to tell you so before you leave.”
Sam curled her arms around his waist, inside his suit coat. “I love you, too, even when you’re irrational.”
His huff of laughter made her smile as she breathed in the familiar scent of home. The thought of even one night without him was almost unbearable. “I’ve got to go.”
“I know,” he said, but he made no move to release her. Rather, he held her closer. “Be careful with my wife. She’s everything to me.”
“I will. I promise.”
He pulled back to kiss her for real, lingering for only a second or two in deference to where they were. “I guess that’ll have to hold me over until tomorrow.”
“Somehow you’ll find a way to survive.”
“Just barely.”
He walked her back to her office to get her things and then saw her off in the same car that had delivered her to the White House, giving her one last kiss after he belted her into the backseat. “Call me later?”
“I will.”
“Safe travels, babe.”
She patted his handsome face. “I’ll be back before you miss me,” she said, quoting his words when he left for Afghanistan with the president.
“Doubtful.” Smiling, he closed the door and waved as the car began to move.