Chapter 39 Bellamy Hart’s A Million Frogs
BELLAMY HART’S A MILLION FROGS . . .
Episode: Will you be mine?
Bae. Steady. Boyfriend. Main squeeze. Lover.
Doesn’t matter what you call it, dear listener. At some point, if you’re seeing someone on the reg, chances are you’re going to level up in the what are we department.
Yes, that can be a terrifying conversation, fraught with nerves and hand-wringing and necessitating multiple glasses of wine with your girlfriends.
What if your hookup doesn’t want the same things you do? What if the guy or gal you’ve been dating doesn’t want to lock you up in the same way?
And, as Kitty in Manhattan asks in our listener question of the week, how do you know when it’s time? And what do I do if he doesn’t feel the same way I do?
Well, Kitty, this is a tricky topic. It may be one of the trickiest in modern romance. You could have amazing chemistry with this guy you’ve been seeing—the kind where you spark every damn time you see him. The kind where you’ve met your match. But what if he doesn’t want the same things?
Deep breath.
Like I wrote in my planning notes—one, don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. You deserve love. And two, don’t be afraid to walk away if you’re not getting what you want.
And what if he does want the same things? What if he’s changed? What if he’s open to all the possibilities?
You won’t know unless you ask the question.
Chin up; lipstick on. Sometimes you have to talk to the frog no matter how much it scares you.
No matter how hard it feels.
Take heart, Kitty. You’re not alone, dear listener.
I’ll be right there with you, asking the question too.
I’d rather kiss this one frog than any others, but first, I have to use my mouth to tell him how I feel.
Wish me luck, just as I’ll be wishing you luck.
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