Episode XXII| Negotiation & Contract
BDSM Relationship, Negotiation, Contract
Parties
This Contract is entered into between Sir Anthony ("the Dominant") and Ayana("the submissive").
Commencement date
The Contract shall commence on __________.
Goal and Purpose of Contract
What are the goals that should be achieved?
Dominant's goals: Make submissive obey
submissive's goals: To learn how to obey achieve independence
Combined goals: This goal will be set once Sir Anthony sub-Ayana come to a perfect agreement.
Term of Contract
This Contract shall be in effect for 90 days, commencing on the Commencement date.
Dominant's Responsibilities
The Dominant shall have the following responsibilities:
To provide a safe environment for play;
To provide the submissive with training to adequately serve the Dominant;
To ensure the submissive keeps up with her diet goals;
To explain any punishment administered.
Availability of sub to Dominant
Submissive Responsibilities consist of Domestic Sexual services, and obeying anything that the Dom asks of her.
The submissive shall make herself available to the dominant during the following times:
Wednesdays 7 pm to 10 pm (If the Dominant is available)
Saturday 9 am to Sunday 10 pm (If the Dominant is available)
When he is in town she is to always make herself seen and available at those same times if the dominant is available.
Submissive's Behavior
When she makes herself available to the Dominant she will kneel at the door or kneel on the bed. This shall solely be her choice; however, she can ONLY choose those options.
The submissive shall never interrupt the Dominant, whether in public or in private settings.
The submissive shall call the Dominant sir or Big Papa nothing more.
The submissive should always make eye contact and never lower her head. As she is a woman, not a slave.
Communication
How may the sub communicate with the Dominant and others?
The submissive may discuss the relationship and the rules with the Dominant in person at any time by requesting permission to do so.
The Dominant shall not unreasonably withhold consent.
If at any time the submissive feels the need to stop the dynamic, she may do so by saying the word "Vulture", at which time all power exchanges shall cease and the parties will communicate as equals.
Or, the submissive may communicate her thoughts and feelings to the Dominant using a written journal or via email/text at any time.
When in public, the submissive may only start conversations with others if the Dominant is present and part of the conversation. The submissive must be courteous at all times. She recognizes that her behavior is a reflection on the Dominant.
Sub's Responsibilities
The submissive shall keep the house clean and tidy at all times. She shall be responsible for cooking healthy meals for the household.
Submissive's Veto Power
The submissive may refuse a command at any time in the following circumstances: when the sub is concerned for her/his physical/mental health, when in public, and around family/vanilla friends.
Note: IF there is no valid reason for the submissive to say no then there is no guarantee that the Dominant will accept the refusal.
Exclusivity
Introduction of any new person must be discussed beforehand.
Submissive may not have other lovers/Masters/Doms
Threesomes will be discussed fairly with the parties involved.
Activities Limits
Dominant's areas of interest/likes: Extreme BDSM
Dominant's soft limits: N/A
Dominant's hard limits: Anal
sub's areas of interest/likes: Unsure/New to BDSM
sub's soft limits: Negotiable
sub's hard limits: Vagina clamps, Anal gear, Extreme BDSM
Certain things can be considered, if you'd like them please note them here:_____________________________________________________
___________________________________________________.
Safe Words
Safeword for slow down: Onion
Safeword for stop: Vulture
Safe signal for slow down: squeaky toy
Safe signal for stop: Voicing mm-mm if bound or tapping 3x if not.
Punishment
How may the Dominant punish the sub for misbehaving?
Flogging Bondage overnight
Bound: Using Dominant's choice of rope room to station Submissive in.
Flog use: Whip-ONLY sticks will not be permitted.
There will be no use of Figging explanation below
Figging means using a ginger root that has been skinned and inserting it into the Anus. This will then generate a burning sensation.
Collar
N/A -will not be permitted to wear
Names/titles
Dominant's name/title in public: Sir
In private: Big Papa
Sub's name/title in public: Ayana, Yaya,
In private: Aya, Yana, baby girl
Sweet Pea will be used in Public or Private if submissive anger Dominant
Confidentiality
The parties must never disclose anything related to this arrangement to others. Images and videos can be shared without consent. The Dominant doesn't care about these matters. The submissive will never have to worry about the Dominant sharing images or videos.
Alteration
Any change must be agreed to by both parties. Signatures will be involved.
Switching
Cessation
Either party can terminate the arrangement at any time.
This will be ONLY valid in court. There has to be a valid reason for termination.
This agreement is a 90-day contract of the submissive's and Dominant's mind, body, and soul.
If this contract is terminated at any point by the submissive they will no longer be able to re-enter into the contract. No exceptions!
Planning/negotiating scenes
Who is responsible for planning scenes? How will the parties negotiate scenes?
The Dominant will always be responsible for planning the scenes. He is responsible for the safety of the submissive, aftercare, location, equipment, areas of the body, and pain.
The Dominant has to ALWAYS ask how the submissive would like to feel during a scene. Without this question/concern, the scene can be voided at any time. This is a safety concern.
Disclosure
Before you engage in any activity, is there anything the other party should know?
Are there any sexually transmissible diseases? There more than likely has already been an appointment set up for the sub and dom.
Medical conditions? This can be physical or mental.
Do you have any phobias? If you are unaware of what this means. Research before you answer this question.
Physical impairments?
Additional Rules
Submissive has to keep a journal of her thought process. The Dominant is not always there and would need to know what she is about. She will have a guard around at all times.
The submissive is to listen to whoever assumes responsibility over her while the Dominant is gone.
There has to be a process for resolving conflict between the Dominant and Submissive. When the Dominant is away she is to call him and address any concerns.
The submissive is not allowed to leave the Mansion without the Dominants' permission rather he is available or not.
Maintain all chores! Garden and catering to a pet of her choice.
Fitness: Yoga and Pilates (if she chooses something else that is fine too) this is a must and has to be followed 2x a day. Morning and Night or Morning and Noon.
This Contract is entered into between Sir Anthony ("the Dominant") and Ayana("the submissive"). Will be followed until the commencement date. Signatures and Notary needed.
Dominants Signature:____________________
Submissives Signatures:_____________________
Date:____________________
Notary/Lawyer:_______________________
Date:____________________