6 Lindsey #2
As a submissive, you intentionally choose when, how, and to whom you give control—and that choice is where your power lies.
With your Dom, you create structure and boundaries, establish limits, agree on safe words, and communicate your needs clearly.
That foundation allows trust to grow, and with that trust, you’re able to surrender in a way that feels safe, fulfilling, and fully your own.
Keep in mind that everyone’s version of submission looks a little different.
The key is finding the structure and connection that works for your dynamic.
The word structure sticks out to me. It’s something my life has been seriously lacking. The idea of someone holding me accountable while still respecting my limits and never using them to tear me down…it hits something in me I didn’t know was raw.
My ex-husband was good at tearing me down. He micromanaged everything I did, made me feel like I was never enough. Pushed me to work more hours, to spend more time with Kas, to do more, be more, all while making it clear I was failing.
But what DomInTheWoods is describing? It doesn’t sound like that at all.
2. What makes someone qualified to be a Pro Dom?
Years of experience, training, and self-reflection.
Personally, dominance and the desire for control and leadership are traits of mine I’ve had my entire life, but I’ve been a Dom since my early twenties, and I’m in my late thirties now.
I’ve put in the work and hours to earn my clients’ trust and submission.
I’d be more than happy to provide you with references and my mentor’s email if that will help you feel safe with me.
I also have testimonials available on my website, which is linked here.
I pop some bubbles and lean back on a jet so it hits a knot in my mid-back, a laugh slipping from my lips. I can’t imagine asking a stranger he worked with for a reference. And I already have one, anyway: Morgan. She wouldn’t like someone or recommend them to me if they weren’t good people.
3. How do you know if you’re in need of a Pro Dom? Or that you’re a submissive, for that matter?
I can’t answer for you personally, but my clients hire me because they need to be dominated.
They want to experience power exchange, structure, and emotional release in a controlled setting where they feel safe.
Some come to me to gain freedom from the choices they make in everyday life or to gain discipline and accountability to help them achieve their goals.
For instance, building a daily routine, going to bed and waking up on time, or saving money.
Some simply want to explore their submission in a safe container with me anonymously by conceding control to me.
I do have to mention that I do not offer sessions online or in person that include nudity, sexual talk, or virtual sex.
I pause to look out of the picture window in front of me.
The view is of the pine trees, and I can see the sparkling lake through some branches.
Do I feel disappointed that he doesn’t offer sex services?
I’ll admit, I’m a little confused, since the videos he puts online are very sexual.
But at the same time, I don’t know if that is what I really need.
If I do this, I’ll do this for more than just a fantasy.
Wait, am I really considering this at all? I don’t listen to myself, and I don’t listen to Nathan. Could I listen to a stranger?
I look away from the window back to my phone.
The second part of your question is another thing I invite you to reflect on before you make your decision to email me again.
I obviously don’t know you, but from your email and interest, I’m going to guess you may have submissive tendencies.
However, that doesn’t mean you want to submit to me or another Dominant.
I’ve attached a list of questions for you to journal on.
If you read over them and react to them in a negative way, entering into an agreement with me is not for you.
If you find yourself desiring to explore them and answer them truthfully, I think you will answer your own question.
All that said, if you look at the questions and need further guidance or help, I’m happy to talk more as you explore.
When my natural instinct is to open the attachment straightaway without thinking more on it, I know that I really am considering doing this.
It’s nice that he’s not forcing anything on me, that he’s urging me to figure this out for myself.
It feels safe. But for now, I hold myself back from immediately opening his questions and decide to keep reading his response to my email.
4. How much does it cost?
I want to smack myself on the head as I read the question I asked.
Did I really ask that? Apparently, I did because it’s there, and he answered it.
I’m sure it’s not cheap, considering he’s a sought-after Dom, and there’s no way I can afford to spend money on something for me right now, even if I end up wanting to go through with it.
But I read his answer anyway to torture myself.
4. How much does it cost?
Having this question listed means it’s a concern of yours.
Let me take that off your shoulders now.
Not only are you a friend of Morgan’s, but she’s also helped me in many ways over the years.
Consider the first month of our dynamic covered.
If our relationship continues long-term, we can revisit this.
But for now, I don’t want you worrying about money or feeling like you owe me something if we move forward.
I’m not exactly sure how I feel about this offer, since I’m not great at accepting help, especially “free” help.
But I do remember Morgan saying that he owed her a favor, and I suppose I could always pay the money back when I get a better hold on my finances.
I look back down at my phone and continue reading.
Now, I will leave you to your thoughts. Please journal on the questions if you’re open to it.
This will help you truly consider if this is right for you or not.
If you find yourself looking for more information, you can visit the website to find answers.
It’s run by a friend who lives the D/s lifestyle twenty-four seven and is an experienced submissive.
Have a good day, Lindsey. If I don’t hear from you again, I wish you nothing but the best. If I do hear from you, and this is something you want to explore, I’ll send you the next step in moving forward.
- DomInTheWoods
I read the email repeatedly. Each time I read it, I find my body responding more. Reacting in a way that leaves me wanting, a desire building low in my stomach for what he could offer me and how he could help me.
I check the time. It’s nearing one, so I have time before I need to be at the ER for my three-to-eleven evening shift.
I ignore that nagging voice in my head telling me that I have things to do instead of playing games with a man I don’t know, but I’m intrigued by what he said and asked me to do.
I want to know why his videos and his email stirred that “tingly” feeling I embarrassingly mentioned to him.
I push back the nagging voice and open the PDF, starting with question one.
1. Do I feel relaxed or supported when I don’t have to make all the decisions?