Chapter Twenty-Six
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RELATIONSHIP EXPERT LIV CARPENTER ON MORNING TEA HELPS WOMAN WHO’S LOST FAITH IN DATING
Liv: Hello, welcome back, everyone, are we ready for our next caller? Who do we have on the line?
Caller: Hi, Liv, I’m Ricki.
Liv: Hi Ricki! What do you want to talk about today?
Caller: My love life. I just don’t know how to…
how to believe anymore, y’know? In love, I mean?
I go on all these awful, horrible dates with awful, horrible men and it never goes anywhere.
On the very rare occasion I meet someone who seems halfway decent, he ghosts me, or turns out to be the kind of person who will send me pictures of his hideously ugly genitals at 2am, before we’ve even kissed.
It’s just this endless parade of disappointment and I’m really starting to feel like love will never happen for me.
Liv: [clucks sympathetically] I’ve been there. Tell me, Ricki, why do you date?
Caller: Er, to meet someone?!
Liv: Sure, okay, but why do you want to meet someone? Are you miserable on your own? No hobbies? No friends? Constant loneliness? Desperately broody?
Caller: Hmm, none of the above. I actually have an amazing life outside of the romance stuff. My friends are the best and I love my job.
Liv: What about loneliness?
Caller: Well, yeah, I do get lonely sometimes. But mostly I’m too busy to notice or just relieved to have a night to myself.
Liv: And actually, I bet the only time you feel really lonely is when you’re on one of those awful dates, sitting opposite one of those terrible men with the ugly genitals?
Caller: Oh my god, yeah, that’s right. I had that exact thought the other night when I was with this dude who kept talking about all the child maintenance he doesn’t feel like he should have to pay for his kids.
Liv: My point is, it’s clear you need a break.
You need to quit dating for a while. Think of it like this: if you could get a quick peek ten years into your future and know for sure you’d met someone and were living that life you envision, would you be piling all this pressure on yourself right now to meet someone?
Caller: [long pause] No.
Liv: I’ve just started dating this amazing guy called Justin, so it can and does happen!
It will happen for you, too, but you have to be in the right frame of mind.
Instead of going on endless dates with a stream of anyones, take some time away from romance.
Fall in love with yourself and your life again.
Then you can come back to dating in a few months – or even a year – in a much more measured and positive way.
But even then, I want you to stop with this scattergun approach.
Only go out with guys who really seem worth it.
You seem amazing and you shouldn’t waste your precious time on anyone you’re half-hearted about.
Caller: This makes a lot of sense.
Liv: Know your own worth, okay, Ricki?
Caller: I will. Thanks Liv! And good luck with Justin. I’m so glad you’ve met someone worthy of you!
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Liv Carpenter says… know your worth
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