Kink Talk
DomOliver: Those of you that date people outside of the kink scene, how do you bring it up? Do you feel them out first, or do you just go “Hello, I would like to dominate you”?
SubSequins: Maybe don’t lead with that unless you want your date to run away screaming.
DomOliver: Obviously. That’s kinda my point. It seems terrifying to…come out and say it.
SubLily: It’s not scary. Dating is about gauging compatibility, and being honest is the only way to do that.
DomOliver: Everything about the unknown is scary. I wish the local kink club had a mentorship program.
SubAir: Wouldn’t that be nice? I wish I could just rent an experienced Dom for an hour to ask him questions about dynamics and expectations and all those little things that no one talks about.
SubZero: Oh, but you could.
SubZero: It’s pretty expensive, but from what I understand, satisfaction is guaranteed.
SubAir: You know what I meant!
DomicronPersei8: I’ve read in sex worker AMAs that some people pay them to talk, so it’s not the craziest idea.
DomPetty: The clients probably want to talk about their own lives, not interrogate them about their habits.
SubLime: I would definitely go for that. Except I would rent a sub to chat about their experiences. Dos and don’ts, that sort of thing.
SubMarine: Same. I feel so out of my depth, I need someone to hold my hand.
SubZero: Fine, I’m on board. Can we get a Dom that’s not like…a hardcore Dom, just someone who’s a little dommy?
DommyBoy: I heard my name.
DomOliver: We can’t actually…rent a Dom, can we?
SubScribble: You can, but it’s a bit more complicated than throwing cash at them. You need a contract and everything.
DomAndDommer: Oliver, you don’t have to tell anyone right away. If you’re vibing with someone, you could try to drop some hints or keep getting to know them until you have a good idea how open they’d be. Sometimes people surprise you, but most of the time it’s pretty obvious after a few dates.
DomOliver: Thanks for actually answering the question. That does make me feel a little better.
SubZero: …
SubZero: So is anyone going halfsies on a Dom with me or what?