Kink Talk
SubMarine: Speaking completely hypothetically, since I haven’t had a Dom, I would prefer someone on the bossy side. Not a full-time Dom, but someone who could keep me grounded.
DomPetty: Is that a chicken/egg situation? You went into the military because you love getting orders or do you miss getting orders because of the military?
SubMarine: A little bit of column A, a little bit of column B.
SubSequins: In my mind, full-time Doms are all growly and super hot, but I’m not sure if that would actually translate into reality. I’m a pretty independent person. Not sure I could give that up.
SubLime: Can I cheat and say both? I want someone confident but not controlling.
SubScribble: I could take it or leave it. It’s a fine line between “hot and authoritative” and “power tripping asshole.”
SubAir: I could leave it. I could definitely leave it. No way would I want someone to boss me around in real life.
DomicronPersei8: So you’d really be fine with submitting in bed and then turning around to call the shots the rest of the time?
SubAir: Uhh, yeah. I like keeping that whole power dynamic completely separate from the rest of my life.
SubZero: I’m probably not the best person for this conversation because I’m not really into the D/s scene, more of a…what’s the equivalent of a weekend warrior? Weekend sub?
DomAndDommer: My dudes, what all of you are describing as power-tripping and controlling are not real Doms. Those are toxic assholes that don’t belong in the community. A real Dom will always put their sub’s needs first, especially in an extended power exchange.
DomAndDommer: And it doesn’t matter if they are official Doms or just someone who likes to tie other people up during sex, they still have a responsibility to you.
SubZero: Someone should tell them that.
SubLily: Not everyone here is a dude, Dommer.
DomAndDommer: Pretty sure “dude” transcends gender.
SubLily: Merriam-Webster disagrees. Anyway, to answer the question, I think I have too strong a personality to handle a full-time Dom.
DommyBoy: Wow, Lily, what a shocking twist.