Kink Talk
DomCurious: I have a question for gay/bi/pan men in BDSM relationships with other men. Do Doms exclusively top, or can you be a Dom and a bottom at the same time?
SubAir: Oooh, that’s a fantastic question! I’m still new to the whole dynamic, but from what I’ve read, being a Dom doesn’t mean you always have to top.
SubScribble: Hell yeah, you can Dom from the bottom! I’ve seen it, and it’s hot as hell.
SubZero: Sounds like Air is intrigued. Should we wait a few hours and ask Domicron how it went?
SubAir: Shut up!
SubAir: Maybe.
DomAndDommer: I’m always down to bottom. To me, being a Dom is about having control over the scene, not what the actual scene is.
SubLime: I like that. To paraphrase my favorite musical, when you’re a Dom, you’re a Dom all the way.
SubZero: Is that from Hamilton?
SubAir: You’re such a sweet little baby.
DomPetty: There’s nothing inherently dominant or submissive about being a top or a bottom. You can be a submissive top or a dominant bottom, whatever works for you. I’m vers, so I’ve had the pleasure of experiencing both.
SubLily: I’ll admit, up until this conversation, I assumed that for men, Doms were always tops, but I’ve learned something new.
DommyBoy: I don’t think I’m qualified to answer this. I’m technically pan, but I’ve only hooked up with women, and never as a Dom, but I’m sure it’s totally doable.
SubLily: FYI, women can top.
DommyBoy: Yes. Upon some reflection, yes, they can. I will be adjusting my sex life accordingly.
DomCurious: Thanks everyone! I was worried it was a dumb question, so I’m glad to hear back from so many people.
SubZero: There are no stupid questions. Only stupid jokes, and I got that shit covered.